Welcome to Day 4 of my series for 5 Days of Threadbare Homeschooling. We’ve discussed using something so often that it’s “dull,” we’ve looked at homeschooling when finances are limited, and yesterday we took an honest sidebar and discussed what makes up the bare minimum of a homeschooling day for those seasons when we need to do that.
Today I’d like to take a look at the most common definition of threadbare, and that is
Do you know what strikes me about that phrase? The first thing is to “lay bare.” Basically, it has no secrets because all of its outer covering, its protective layers, has been worn down. What we see are its raw parts, what holds it together, but not what makes it pretty.
Who are you accountable to? The Lord, of course. Your husband, possibly – but I’ve recently discovered that my husband trusts me with the homeschooling and, while he likes to be informed and feel like his trust is well-placed, he really doesn’t care enough about the intimate details to be involved in the decisions. Yet, I still need someone to hold me accountable from time to time.
This is where community comes in. We all need someone to whom we can stay accountable. Some of us need more than one of these people; we might call them mentors, or advisors. I like to have some people in the outermost circle, who know we homeschool and are involved enough in our lives that we can be honest when things aren’t right. Those might be immediate family, such as my own mother, or people at church, or those in the outer circles of our support group friends.
The next layer in would be other homeschoolers who understand being in the trenches and can relate to at least one area of the specifics of life we might have in our own situations. One person might understand the learning issues we face, while another understands all of our health concerns. Yet another has the same number of kids we have or close, but theirs are older and she’s been homeschooling longer. Maybe others use the same curricula that we do, and maybe some people in this layer are totally different than we are because occasionally we need a completely contrasting viewpoint.
Then there’s an inner layer, consisting of maybe just two or three other people. These are people that love you no matter what, you trust to hold your feet to the fire, can speak the truth in love even when it hurts, and who are your dearest friends with or without the homeschooling accountability. Sometimes we need a friend to just decide to show up at our door a couple of times a week and do school alongside us, because it means we are actually going to get things done that day. Sometimes we need someone to bring over all their science curricula and let us spend time cruising through all the options until we find what does – and doesn’t! – work for the one (or five) hole/s we still have in our education.
And sometimes we need to be that person for others. It’s all about relationships, yall, and sometimes the best way to forge relationships with our kids is to make sure that we have relationships in our own lives to help support what we’re trying to accomplish at home. It’s important, and it’s a relief!