I’m amused that my last post was “Strange Week” because that is what I had intended to title THIS post. It’s what I titled the threads on the message boards I help in keeping active. It was on one of those posts that I was asked, yet again, how we “do” with hubby working mostly nights.
The entire reason for my post, and the reason this week is, indeed, a strange one, is that hubby is NOT working nights this week. This isn’t the norm for us, and it throws us all a bit off. That said, let me say too that I don’t really mind it! Not in the long run. If our family is anything, we are used to making adjustments. So yeah, it’s out of the ordinary and our routine gets out-of-kilter for a while. Maybe it would be easier if I knew exactly how long his schedule would be one way or the other, or even if he were to go on days permanently. Long term, I can handle! I can handle short-term, too – it just takes more effort. I don’t intend my musings to be complaints, especially not about this. If I had to name just one thing (besides my husband himself and our dear children and families) that I was most thankful for in my life right now, hubby’s job would certainly be at the top of the list. He loves it there, loves the people he works for, and feels like the Lord has a purpose for him there. I can’t ask for more than that. Really.
Okay, that said, back to how do we deal with what is our normal – the graveyard shift! Here’s what I posted on the boards, with a few tweaks for venue’s sake. 🙂
We have a completely adjusted schedule, that’s how! He goes in (these days) at 8pm and gets off around 6am. As long as he has those first few hours to get to sleep and get into the deep stage of sleep, he does well – so, we sleep late so he can do that. We get up anywhere between 10am and noon – depends on how life is going at the moment, and it changes and varies pretty often. The kids brush their teeth and start getting ready for bed around 11pm and are usually (not always!) in bed by midnight. I usually stay up until more like 1-2am.
That’s our “norm” and of course it doesn’t always go like that. The twins are really throwing that stuff off a lot, because they don’t sleep all night yet and so I’m getting less restful sleep… and thus am sleeping later. So these days I get to bed around 1am but then don’t get up until close to noon… and those are on the earlier side. I really don’t like being in bed past noon though, so if I wake up and it’s 12:30 or 1pm, I hop right up no matter what time I went to bed or how well I slept. I also don’t stay up past when the kids do – when the babies get to sleep, I go to bed too!
Hubby goes to bed by 7am and usually sleeps until around 4pm when he gets up and spends a few hours for family time. The 8pm work hour is rough on us, just because of what we’ve been used to when he worked baker hours; we are used to him not having to leave until around 9:30 so our time is cut shorter lately. But he’s working normally 5, 10-hour days instead of 6, 8-hour days… and really we enjoy him having the entire weekend off more than the shorter work day schedule.
My husband has been a baker since he was 15 years old. He has a harder time working days – it’s like when people who usually work days suddenly have to work a week of graveyards. It’s hard! So this is way out of the norm for us. We have a routine, and just like for anyone, when our routine is changed or interrupted it causes a bit of a ripple effect. When it dawned on me that hubby had been a baker almost half his life and that he probably wasn’t changing careers any time soon, it just made sense to adjust our schedule to best accommodate his sleep patterns. And thus his odd routine has influenced ours. I know for a fact that our life works better than it would were we on opposite schedules all the time. 😉
Our regular but odd schedule makes a few things difficult – when park day starts at 10am, or getting up in time for Sunday School, or just getting business done during “regular business hours” is difficult. But in general, it works for us. Life may eventually take us into the “normal schedule” lifestyle, and we’re ready for that, but it will be an adjustment! We’re used to making adjustments though. Whatever the Lord has for us, we are ready, willing, and waiting. Maybe those plans are on hold so we can make the adjustment back to the world of “normal” again… Lord Jesus help us! HAHA! 😀