Homeschooling Essentials: Kids

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What homeschooling essentials must you absolutely, without a doubt, 100% sure need if you’re going to homeschool? Kids, of course!

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You might think, “Well, sure! Of course! That’s a little obvious, don’t ya think?” Well, yes. Yes of course it’s obvious that the most important of homeschooling essentials would be the kids. You must have someone you’re intending to homeschool, or you wouldn’t be thinking about it. I’ve a few things I want to point out about what this really and truly means – what it means for you as a homeschooling parent, and what it means for your kids.

Kids Will Be Kids

Kids are restless, and loud, and dirty. Kids, by human nature, are selfish. They are naive, don’t always remember their manners, and sometimes “miss” cues that we consider natural (if only because we’ve been doing them for so long that we forget they were learned practices). Kids have a tendency to only want to do what they want to do, only want to have fun, and a resistance to effort. They have a natural desire to be moving and shaking, using every part of their bodies and brains to absorb and learn about the world around them. And, for us adults (especially those who aren’t used to being around this behavior constantly, day in and day out), it can become quite overwhelming!

I’ve been homeschooling for almost 8 years now, and I can tell you that I’ve learned as much or more than the kids. Now, some of that is academic because I have the chance to teach certain subjects in the way I wish I’d been taught. But, so much of it isn’t about what I’ve learned academically but what I’ve learned about life, and about myself, and about my kids. So many people have told me over the years that they couldn’t homeschool because they don’t have the patience. Guess what? When I started out, neither did I. Patience was the first thing I learned. And it wasn’t an easy lesson.

There are many things I considered choosing for the first essential. Heart issues, all of them: patience, love for your kids, recognition when you’ve messed up and it’s time to start over, forgiveness both for your kids and for yourself, time to adjust, well-behaved kids, and so many more. And then I recognized that, when I started homeschooling, I didn’t have any of those. Sure, I have them now (at least most of them, and for the most part), but to be perfectly honest most of those things in myself and in my home have come from homeschooling. They aren’t why I was able to homeschool my kids; they are the benefits of doing so.

Homeschooling Essentials

So what are the homeschooling essentials we all need? School supplies, a place to study and instruct, good books, maybe some core curriculum items, ways to have fun and let your kids be who they are and still generate a learning environment. I’ll discuss all of these things, and probably more, throughout the week.

But, the most important homeschooling essentials are the kids. Always remember that. You’re doing it for the kids, for their growth and development and education and benefit. The kids themselves are the most important aspect of homeschooling, and it will look different for every child. It might not be easy, especially at first, but you will get to know your kids better. They will learn, they will grow in all areas of their life… and so will you. The most important homeschooling essential is to recognize as the parent that kids will be kids, and it is your God given assignment, right, and privilege to guide them. Put your heart where it needs to be, and everything else is gravy.

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I’m blessed to be writing this series in conjunction with my new friends on the TOS Schoolhouse Review Crew! Please take a moment to comment here and let me know you’re reading, and then please visit a few of my friends who are also participating. Everyone will have their own take on what Homeschooling Essentials really include and mean. That’s the beauty of homeschooling, in that we each do it in our own way, and many of us homeschool a little differently even with our own kids. It’s about freedom.

Laura @ Day by Day in Our World

Julie @ Nurturing Learning

Lisa @ Farm Fresh Adventures

Lori @ At Home: where life happens

Nicole @ Journey to Excellence

Adriana @ Homeschool Ways

Brandy @ Kingdom Academy Homeschool

Meg @ Adventures with Jude

Sarah @ Delivering Grace


  1. says

    The truth lies in the fact that we do learn so very much from our kids and it is not always, actually almost never, what we expect. The children are the reason we choose what we choose, why we do it day in and day out. And you are right, they are essential to homeschooling. And I love it!
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    • dalynnrmc says

      Thank you. I’ve done so many of these type posts, I just wanted to start out a little differently this time. I appreciate your comments and encouragement! God bless!

  2. says

    It is a growing process for all parties involved in homeschooling. It is such a blessing to be able to witness to our kids what that growing in God looks like. How we all fall short, but just pick up and start over because of God’s grace.
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    • dalynnrmc says

      God’s grace and mercy is kind of a theme here lately! Have you read my post about 3 things I’m NOT doing right? It’s all about starting new tomorrow. :) I never thought of it really as witnessing to the kids about it, but I do know that in my own life I certainly learned from the mistakes and growth of those around me. Great point! Thank you for commenting, and God bless!

  3. says

    I love what you said about not having the patience when you started. My oldest is just in Kindergarten, and I’ve had my share of impatient moments that I wish I could take back and do over. I’d forgotten that God will use our homeschooling years to shape me and mold me more into the woman he has called me to be. Thinking of that changes my attitude from one of feeling like a failure to having great hope for the work he will do in me. Looking forward to reading more from you this week!
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    • dalynnrmc says

      “God will use our homeschooling years to shape me and mold me more into the woman he has called me to be.” THIS is exactly right. I wish I’d known that in the beginning months; maybe I’d have handled some of my harder lessons with more grace. There are days, in fact most days, that I really believe that God called me to homeschool more for ME than for the kids. Yes, it’s best for the kids, and yes my oldest wasn’t doing well in the public system… but I have learned and grown SO MUCH from it that I truly see God’s hand in His plan for ME specifically. What an awesome ride! And, it’s not over yet. <3 Thank you for reading and commenting! Blessings!

  4. says

    Patience was the first thing you learned and it’s what I am learning too, this being my first year homeschooling my firstborn. It’s reassuring to hear from an 8-year-old veteran that you don’t have to start out with already having patience. Or anything else. And yes, you got me. “Kids” as an essential because we homeschool for their sake… hmm… very deep.
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    • dalynnrmc says

      I learned my patience lesson the very, very hard way. If anyone had been around when my patience broke, it’s likely that I’d have been in major trouble. I thank God every day that it wasn’t major for anyone but me, but it’s something I feel is absolutely crucial that new homeschooling parents understand. It comes with time and effort, and at the end of the day if it’s too much, give YOURSELF some grace as well as your kids, and start over tomorrow. They are learning new habits and this new homeschool thing, too. Hugs to you, sweetie! It’s not easy, but it DOES get better, and it IS worth it! God bless you!

    • dalynnrmc says

      I love that expression, miniature adults; it really serves the purpose of helping you realize how you think about the kids. I appreciate your comment! God bless!

    • dalynnrmc says

      Exactly. I catch myself forgetting from time to time. 😉 Thanks for taking the time to comment! God bless!